Bringing the Spice back into your relationship

HOW TO TURN A WOMAN ON - MAKE HER WANT YOU

2010-04-21T15:37:00.000-07:00

It’s tough to make an impression. In a nightclub, it can feel sleazy; on a date, it’s hard to avoid awkwardness. So what can men to do to turn women on and leave them lustfully craving more? Here are of 5 ideas that only a woman with ice in her veins could ignore.

Bold Banter

What I Mean: A little playful teasing can be the hugest turn on. Women don’t like to be agreed with about everything we say (no matter what you’ve heard!).

Why It Works: Some titilating but harmless arguing allows the man to push the woman’s buttons and vice versa. The power struggle heats up the sexual tension and draws you two together. I mean, what’s more intimate than a lovers' quarrel?

A word of warning, there is a big difference between teasing a woman about being lost in your eyes and about her weight. Don’t be a jerk, just don’t be a pushover either.

Women say they hate to be told what to do, but it can actually be quite arousing. It’s a sexy challenge. You tell her she’ll be tearing your clothes off later, she can’t help but picture that image – even if she denies it. You think the lady doth protest too much? Most likely.

Lingering Looks

What I Mean: If there is some sort of group dynamic, or if you are dancing together, and you glance her way and just hold this gaze – shivers. Eyes say a lot and really sexy men know exactly how to put what they are thinking out there.

Why It Works: It makes her feel like she is the only woman in the room. It is so hot to feel someone’s eyes on you when you know what they are thinking. Again, the sexual tension is kicked up big time.

From one look, you could leave her dying inside wondering and waiting for what the two of you can do when you actually are alone.

Masculine Manners

What I Mean: Who would think politeness could be an aphrodisiac? But take my word for it, holding doors, pulling out chairs, compliments – even if she laughs them off, she’s impressed.

Why It Works: It’s rare to be treated with respect and like a lady these days! The reason it’s so sexy is because it really calls attention to your roles as men and women. Like Ron Burgundy said to his date: “You be a woman. I’ll be a man”.

For whatever reason, calling attention to the obvious can be really hot. And all this gentle courtship is really so you can impress her right? So while the man is acting like he’s in charge, the woman gets to feel like she is calling the shots. Not to mention the sexy contradiction of all this gentlemanly gallantry with whatever sinful thoughts might be going on in your minds.

Subtle Strokes

What I Mean: Women are fondled unnecessarily on pretty much a daily basis so if we’re out on a date and there is more groping to contend with, that is a huge turn off.

Try a different approach. The old “reverse pyschology” works pretty well in this area. A man who can really hold back and just lightly brush her hair off her shoulder or softly caress her leg is going to find himself with a woman wanting more, more, more.

Why It Works: It’s a clear case of wanting what you can’t have. Being out with a guy who is not doing all about bumping and grinding can be a refreshing but strangely frustrating experience.

The less you touch her, the more she will want it! Especially when teased with a gentle hand on hers or a slight brush of her leg. She will tremble and sensual thoughts will be hard to escape.

Whispered Words

What I Mean: Tell her she’s beautiful, tell her she turns you on – quietly. This too makes her feel like you are the only ones in the room. It’s especially sexy if you do it when there are a ton of people around and there’s no real way for her to respond.

Why It Works: All this pent up sexual tension will leave her ready to explode. Women are auditory creatures and hearing your naughty little thoughts will leave us so shaken we won’t be able to concentrate on anything else.

Words are powerful and as long as you don’t overdo it with porno type cheesiness, she’ll be unable to resist your steamy suggestions. Even a simple “I want to kiss you right now” will cause a rush of desire – if she wasn’t thinking about sex before, there’s no chance she’s ignoring that tantalizing tidbit.

THINGS THAT KILL A LOVING RELATIONSHIP

2010-02-15T10:42:00.000-08:00

Not Listening

Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.

When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.

Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.

Excess Baggage

Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.

Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.

Commitment Problems

With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.

In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.

Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.

Family Matters

The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.

Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.

Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.

Being a Workaholic

In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.

Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.

To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.

YOU DON’T NEED THEM

If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.

The Month of LUV

2010-02-02T12:59:00.000-08:00

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.

- Aristotle

February has long been a month of romance! Valentine’s Day is a day that celebrates Luv ?? There have been many great romantics through time ….Sappho, Shah Jahan, Mary Shelly, King Edward III, Kathleen Woodiwiss, Vatsyayana, Giacomo Casanova, Richard Wagner, Edith Piaf, and Elizabeth Taylor.

There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine’s Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it “From Your Valentine”. Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.

Gradually, February 14 became the date for exchanging love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. The date was marked by sending poems and simple gifts such as flowers. There was often a social gathering or a ball.

Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages (written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400), and the oldest known Valentine card is on display at the British Museum. The first commercial Valentine’s Day greeting cards produced in the U.S. were created in the 1840s by Esther A. Howland. Howland, known as the Mother of the Valentine, made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap”.

According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated one billion valentine cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.)

Approximately 85 percent of all valentines are purchased by women. In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, and Australia.

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Signs of Flirting

2010-01-13T12:30:00.000-08:00

Do you know HOW to flirt?

Do you know if you ARE flirting (could you be accidentally flirting)?

The following actions are considered to be REAL flirting indicators - check them out and see if you're sending (and receiving) the right message:

How to tell she likes you:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way...

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

Splitting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth....

She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She laughs in unison with you.

She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

She rubs her wrists up and down.

I found this article... just had to post it

2009-10-27T15:15:00.000-07:00

Keeping a relationship fresh as time goes by can be challenging for most couples. Whether the cause has to do with each having busy lives or simply getting too accustomed to each other, there are plenty of things you can do to keep the flame burning in the relationship.

The first way doesn't have to do so much with taking any action. It's more about how you approach the day to day. Even if you've been together for years, don't assume anything and wake up every day determined to get to know your loved one as though it was the 1st time you've met
Mix it up and be unpredictable now and again. Instead of winding down on a Friday night after a rough week at the office, surprise your better half with a spontaneous getaway for a day or two. If you can't afford it, then simply makes some dinner reservations at their favorite restaurant and let them know they have 30 minutes to get dressed because you're taking them out to an unknown destination.
Guys, make sure to keep romance alive. Remember all the romantic things you used to do when you just started going out? Instead of being embarrassed about them, come up with an even bigger list of a bunch of small things that you can do to make your partner smile and say "awww". If you find yourself falling into old habits and not taking action in the romance department, add it to your weekly scheduler so you don't forget.
Girls, you too need to keep romance alive. Now I know some of you may be thinking to yourselves that your guy doesn't even like being romantic. Nonsense; it just may be a different definition of romance, but I guarantee you that there are things that he'll enjoy and will make him even closer to you. It might be cooking him a great meal or even hanging out like one of the guys with him during the night and adding some fringe benefits on to that. Everyone has something.
Change your environment. A big reason relationships tend to get dull over time is that we don't try anything new. The environment we're in is a part of that as well, so change it up. Go on getaways or even spend a night a month at a nice hotel in your town. It doesn't matter where, the point is that by being some place you're both not familiar with, you'll have new experiences together.
Speaking of new experiences, why don't you pick up a new hobby or sport together? If you can both find something you're interested in, you'll not only become closer; but you'll also be fulfilling yourselves on an individual basis.

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Bring the Spice Back In Your Relationship

2009-10-19T12:30:00.001-07:00

Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing! But sometimes I'm in need of a little spice to rekindle the romance flame. We have been together for so long ... that trying something new is what keeps the love fresh and us together.